As a dad, I’ve discovered that some of the most meaningful connections with my son happen when we shut down our devices to get out and play together. There’s something magical about those unstructured moments we spend tossing a ball in the backyard, exploring a new hiking trail, chasing each other around the playground or even goofing around in the backyard that built our bonds in ways nothing else can.
As someone who’s juggling the solo parenting life with a busy career, I’ve learned that making time to play with family does more than let off steam — it creates lasting memories and shapes the heart of your family life.
Why Play Matters
Research consistently shows that active play helps children develop physically, emotionally and socially. It builds coordination, confidence and problem-solving skills.
The benefits extend to us dads, too. When I’m outside playing with my son, I feel most present, relaxed and connected to him and the simpler joys in life. Those moments of laughter and friendly competition are an essential reset button for mental health amid life’s demands.
Creative Ways to Get Out and Play
In the daily grind of work, school and household responsibilities, intentional playtime often gets pushed to the bottom of the priority list. As luck would have it, there are countless ways to squeeze play into your routine — even if you only have a couple of hours on weekend mornings. Here are some fun games to play with your family.
1. Reinvent Traditional Games
Classic games like tag, hide-and-seek and capture the flag never really get old — but they can get even better with creative twists and tweaks like:
- Flashlight tag for evening play.
- Freeze tag with silly “unfreeze” requirements.
- Nature hike scavenger hunts instead of traditional hide-and-seek.
Last weekend, we played “animal tag,” where whoever was “it” had to move like a specific animal. Watching my 7-year-old try to tag me while hopping like a kangaroo had us both in stitches.
2. Explore Family Sports
Sports have a unique way of bringing people together. They provide structure, encourage healthy competition and create opportunities to learn teamwork and perseverance.
Begin with the basics — transform your driveway or a local field into an obstacle course using items you have at home, such as cones, hula hoops and jump ropes. Sports are a fun way to introduce the spirit of friendly competition and teach life skills. Keep it simple and enjoyable. After all, the focus shouldn’t be on winning but on enjoying your time together.
Some popular family sports include soccer, pickleball, basketball and even mini-golf, and there are plenty of ways to integrate these at home. Placing goals and field lines in your backyard or setting up some PickleGrip over a concrete surface can make for an easy home court that will encourage frequent play.
3. Backyard Campouts and Scavenger Hunts
Setting up a tent in the backyard or arranging a scavenger hunt around the house can be an exciting way to blend adventure with the comfort of home. My son loves the thrill of discovery, and nothing beats the excitement of finding hidden treasures in familiar surroundings. These activities build muscle, boost creativity and teach teamwork as you bond over strategizing and hunting together.
4. Nature Walks and Bike Rides
There’s something magical about exploring local parks or bike trails. A leisurely bike ride or a brisk nature walk can become a mini-adventure where you discuss flora and fauna, learn about local wildlife or enjoy the rhythm of pedaling. These outings are fantastic for giving both of you a break from screens while getting your daily dose of exercise.
5. Create Themed Game Days
Pick a theme — like “Superhero Saturday” or “Retro Games Day” — and plan activities, costumes and challenges around it. A motif adds an extra layer of excitement as the planning and execution become part of the play. Let your imagination run wild and allow your child to contribute ideas — after all, the best memories happen when you do things as a family.
Making It Happen — Practical Tips
As a single dad with a demanding job, I’ve had to get creative about finding time and energy for active play. Here’s what works for me.
- Schedule it: I block off playtime on my calendar, giving it the same priority as work meetings. It might sound overly structured, but with my busy lifestyle, I forget to do things that aren’t on my to-do list.
- Mix it up: Taking games outdoors puts you closer to nature, which improves mood and mental well-being, supports physical health, improves cognitive development and teaches social skills. If rain forces you indoors, pick a board game or have an impromptu creative art session instead of plopping down in front of the TV.
- Get everyone involved: Letting your child plan the day’s activities gives them a sense of ownership and can cultivate self-esteem and creativity.
- Celebrate every win: End every play session with hugs, high-fives or even small prizes like medals or trophies.
- Join forces: Connect with other parents for group activities. Kids love the expanded play options, and the adult conversation is refreshing, too.
- Start small: On particularly exhausting days, I remind myself that even a few minutes of dedicated play time is better than none. Often, once we get started, our energy levels pick up — and before we know it, five minutes becomes an hour.
The Long Game — A Legacy of Laughter and Learning
As my son grows, I know our play will change. Basketball might give way to other interests, and he’ll eventually outrun me in every race. But I hope the habit of making space for joy and connection through activity will remain constant through every phase of our relationship.
So this weekend, put aside the chores for a while, ignore the email notifications and play with your family. The dishes can wait. These days of childlike wonder will not.